One On Ones Skill for Claude

One-on-Ones

> Design and run effective 1:1 meetings that build trust, develop people, and surface problems before they become crises.

When to Use This Skill

• New manager setting up 1:1s for the first time
• Resetting unproductive 1:1s that became status updates
• Onboarding a new direct report with structured first conversations
• Preparing for a difficult conversation (performance, conflict, change)
• Career development coaching in 1:1 context
• Scaling management as team grows

Methodology Foundation

| Aspect | Details |

|--------|---------|

| Sources | Andy Grove (*High Output Management*), Kim Scott (*Radical Candor*), Michael Lopp (*Managing Humans*) |

| Core Principle | The 1:1 is the direct report's meeting, not the manager's — their time to surface what matters to them |

| Key Ratio | Manager talks 10-30% of the time; listens 70-90% |

What Claude Does vs What You Decide

| Claude Does | You Decide |

|-------------|------------|

| Designs 1:1 cadence and structure for your team size | Personal relationship-building approach |

| Generates conversation frameworks and question banks | Which questions fit each person |

| Creates agenda templates and running-notes docs | How to adapt for individual personalities |

| Prepares scripts for difficult conversations | Final wording and tone for sensitive topics |

| Suggests development discussion frameworks | Career advice based on your knowledge of the person |

Instructions

Step 1: Set Up the Mechanics

Cadence by maturity:

| Task-Relevant Maturity | Frequency | Duration |

|------------------------|-----------|----------|

| New or struggling | 2x/week | 30-45 min |

| Developing | Weekly | 30-45 min |

| Senior / independent | Bi-weekly | 45-60 min |

Rules: Same time each week. Rarely cancel. They own the agenda (shared doc, they add topics first). Private space for sensitive topics.

30-minute structure:

| Time | Activity |

|------|----------|

| 0-5 min | Check-in: "How are you, really?" |

| 5-20 min | Their agenda items |

| 20-25 min | Your topics (feedback, context) |

| 25-30 min | Commitments and close |

Step 2: Master the Conversation

Opening — Understand where they're at: "What's on your mind this week?" / "How's your energy level?"

Middle (their agenda) — Coach, don't solve:

• "Tell me more about that."
• "What have you tried?"
• "What do you think you should do?"
• "How can I help?"

Resist the urge to fix immediately. Ask → Listen → Ask more → Let them reach conclusions.

Middle (your topics) — Keep secondary. Feedback, context, observations.

Closing — Capture commitments: "What are you committing to? What am I committing to?" Document and review next time.

Step 3: Handle Different Conversation Types

Career Development (monthly/quarterly):

• "Where do you want to be in 2-3 years?"
• "What skills do you want to develop?"
• "What would make this the best job you've ever had?"

Feedback:

• Context → 2. Specific observation → 3. Impact → 4. Their perspective → 5. What should change

Performance concern:

• State the pattern with specific examples
• Ask: "Help me understand — what's happening?"
• Explain the impact
• Agree on path forward with clear expectations and timeline
• Document

Validation checkpoint: After a performance conversation, check in at the next 1:1. If no improvement after 2-3 follow-ups, escalate to formal process.

Trust-building (new relationship):

• "Tell me about your path to here."
• "How do you like to receive feedback?"
• "What do you need from me to do your best work?"

Step 4: Troubleshoot Common Problems

| Problem | Likely Cause | Fix |

|---------|-------------|-----|

| "Everything is fine" every week | Lack of trust or wrong questions | Wait in silence longer; share your own challenges first; ask "What would you change if you could?" |

| Turns into status update | Habit, no agenda ownership | "I can read status — what do you need from me?"; use shared doc for status, meeting for discussion |

| Same complaints, no action | Venting without ownership | "We've discussed this for weeks. Are you ready to address it?" |

| Surface-level only | Trust not established yet | Walk-and-talks, share about yourself, be patient |

| Too busy to hold 1:1s | Too many reports or not delegating | 1:1s are core management work, not optional — restructure |

Examples

Example: Onboarding a New Report

Week 1 (60 min): Getting to know each other — their story, working preferences, how they like feedback, your context and priorities.

Weeks 2-4 (30 min, 2x/week): Frequent check-ins — "What's surprising? What's confusing? What do you need?"

Week 4+: Transition to weekly cadence with shared running doc. Add development topics monthly.

90-day check-in: "How's it going overall? What's working? What's not? What do you want to focus on next quarter?"

Example: Resetting Stale 1:1s

The reset conversation: "I've noticed our 1:1s have become mostly status updates. I want to use this time for things you can't get elsewhere — challenges, development, feedback. What would make these more valuable for you?"

Then: implement shared agenda doc, change opening from "What's your update?" to "What's on your mind?", add 10 minutes for development each week, experiment with format (walks, coffee).

See QUESTIONS.md for a complete question bank organized by category (opening, work, development, relationship, closing).

Skill Boundaries

What This Skill Does Well

• Designing 1:1 systems and cadence for different team sizes
• Generating conversation frameworks and question banks
• Preparing scripts for difficult management conversations
• Diagnosing and fixing unproductive 1:1 patterns

What This Skill Cannot Do

• Replace real human judgment about individual personalities
• Handle legally sensitive HR situations (consult HR/legal)
• Know your team members — you provide the context
• Substitute for building genuine relationships over time

References

• Grove, Andy. *High Output Management* — 1:1 fundamentals
• Scott, Kim. *Radical Candor* — Caring personally + challenging directly
• Lopp, Michael. *Managing Humans* — Practical 1:1 advice
• Horowitz, Ben. *The Hard Thing About Hard Things* — Difficult conversations

Related Skills

• high-output-management — Grove's full management system
• radical-candor — Feedback framework for 1:1s